I have a technique that I use to deal with a lot of situations that I call setting strong defaults. It started with dating as a means to eliminate the ridiculous and common “but where do YOU want to eat?” loop where each person keeps asking the other person where they want to eat, and tons of time an energy is wasted on a decision no one really cares about. Now I use it for many things, from dating to work.
There’s a balance in relationships where women typically want a man to lead in decisions, but also want to be heard and to have the option of having input. Very often men don’t realize this and they keep asking their girlfriend what they want to do, only to have the question flipped back to them. They think that they’re being nice, but actually they’re imposing the responsibility of having