Why is It So Hard to Be Self-Promotional if You’re a Woman?

“What’s the hardest part about writing a book?” I’ve been asked this question a lot lately, and my answer is what you’d expect: figuring out which darlings to fight for and which to cut, weaving a cohesive narrative, and finding an author bio photo of me that doesn’t have obscene words in the background. You […]

A Toddler in Turkey

We went to Turkey with our friends and their toddler. This seems impossible now, six short months later. I suspect it will seem even more impossible in the coming years. But we went from Istanbul to Cappadocia, and he wandered in the dust and the sunshine. Imagine the hearts that will be broken. And he tried […]

The Creepiness of the Basilica Cistern, Istanbul, Turkey

Note: I’m currently in Japan this week, and it’s been a remarkable trip thus far. I need to take some time to tell you all about it, but right now I’m stuffing my face with rice balls and just delighting in how beautiful and clean everything is. So you’ll have to wait for my posts […]

Slip Sliding Away

By the time we land in Seattle, I am tired of people asking about the contents of the plastic toolbox. Both Rand and I have carried it from my father’s tiny Bavarian village to Munich to Amsterdam and now home, each of us now acutely aware of how ill-suited a container it is for transportation. […]

Erasing Lines at The Hagia Sophia, Turkey

Islamophobia has, understandably, been on my mind a lot lately. I’ve been watching as it slowly spreads across America – perhaps it’s always been around, just under the surface, but in recent months, with the election of our new President, it’s come to a rolling boil. He has villified Americans and foreigners alike, accused the […]

A New Look for the Blog

Long time readers of the blog (hello, weirdos! I love you!) will probably notice that things look a little different around here. I’ve just relaunched the blog, which was redesigned and built by the fantastic team at The Medium. If you’ve never had to redesign a blog, I’ll tell you truthfully: it’s normally not a […]

Unhelpful Charts for Writers

Posted on Mar 21, 2017 While I initially started this post with the aim of creating helpful charts for writers, that was soon abandoned because I don’t really know what helpful advice I have to offer about writing, other than to maybe not be sober while doing it. (And that’s not even my advice – pretty […]

Galata Tower, Istanbul, Turkey

I am not afraid of heights. This is notable, because I have historically been afraid of: a Boston Terrier, my coat (I woke up from a nap and freaked out because I thought it was a cat), and my own shadow (it caught me off guard. At the age of 36). So having a small […]

The 10th Circle of Hell is Southwest Airlines

Pictured: Rand, the best person on this plane. Also pictured: Dude in headphones who screamed when people got too close to him. I have this terrible habit of assuming that most people are generally good, contributing members of society, and not bat-shit barely-functioning assholes. Every now and then we may deviate from this norm (I […]

What’s It Like To Record Your Own Audiobook?

This is the face of a woman in over her head. My agent was the first to tell me my memoir would be available in audiobook. At the time, I couldn’t imagine that too many people would consume my book by listening to it. It’s a book! It’s supposed to be read! On pages! Perhaps even […]

My Literary Agent Answers Your Questions About Publishing

Because of my agent, Zoe, I get to have meetings in fancy buildings like this one. I’ve been writing a lot about my adventures in publishing (which has been a fun, strange, occasionally frustrating experience because it is only by writing a book that you figure out how to write a book). My book will be […]